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1 Predictor Of Divorce Ever catch yourself rolling your eyes at your partner or getting a little too sarcastic kate spade official website during a conversation?Those seemingly small behaviors are not that innocent after all. According to renowned researcher John Gottman,contemptuous behavior like eye rolling, sarcasm and name calling is the number one predictor of divorce. For 40 years,the University of Washington psychology professor and his team at the Gottman Institute have studied couples'interactions to determine the key predictors of divorce or as Gottman calls them,"the four horsemen of the apocalypse." Contempt is the number one sign, followed by criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling (emotionally withdrawing from your partner.) So how do you curb contempt in your own marriage and stave off divorce? Below, experts share seven things you can do to keep contempt in check. 1. Realize that delivery is everything. "Remember, it's not what you say, but how you say it that makes all the difference. Contempt often comes in the form of name calling, snickering, sarcasm, eye rolling and long heavy sighs. Like a poison, it can erode the trust and safety in your relationship and bring your marriage to a slow death. Your goal is to be heard. You need to present your message in a way that makes this happen without doing damage to the relationship." Christine Wilke, a marriage therapist based in Easton, Pennsylvania 2. Ban the word"whatever" from your vocabulary. "When you say 'whatever' to your partner, you're basically saying you're not going to listen to them. This sends them a message that whatever they're talking about is unimportant and has no merit to you. This is the last thing you want your spouse to hear. Sending messages (even indirectly through contempt) that they're not kate spade ladies bags important will end a relationship pretty quickly." Aaron Anderson, a Denver, Colorado based marriage and family therapist 3. Stay clear of sarcasm and mean spirited jokes. "Avoid sarcasm and comments like, 'I'll bet you do!' or 'Oh, that was super funny" in a rude tone of voice. While you're at it, don't make jokes at the expense of your partner or make universal comments about his or her gender ('You would say that you're a guy')." LeMel Firestone Palerm, a marriage and family therapist "Most couples start showing contempt because they have let a lot of little things build up. To avoid contempt all together, you need to stay current in your communications along the way. If you're unhappy about something, say it directly. Try taking a break from each other if things get heated, or try focusing on positive aspects that you like about your partner." Chelli Pumphrey, a counselor based in Denver, Colorado 6. Don't ever tell your spouse, "you're overreacting." 7. If you find yourself being contemptuous, stop and take a deep breath. "Make it your goal to become aware of what contempt is. Then find out specifically what it looks like in your marriage. When you feel the urge to go there, take a deep breath, and say 'stop'quietly to yourself. Find another way to make your point.

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